Usually, on our blog we’re talking about all things weddings – what vendors to use, trends to choose or things you should stay away from. However, today on the blog we’re taking a little bit of a different turn and talking about your relationship – the whole reason why you got married in the first place!
After the honeymoon phase has died down and the thrills of planning your wedding is over, that is when real life begins! There’s plenty of marriage advice out there, and we won’t claim ourselves to be experts. However there is one tool that we do know is true, and it’s understanding your partner’s love language.
If you don’t yet already know your Love Language, we encourage you to take this test (http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/). The Love Languages was developed by Dr. Chapman who theorizes people tend to give love in the way they prefer to receive love. The love language quiz will take you through a series of 30 questions and you have to select which situation you prefer the most. This will tell you how your love languages rank in order from most important to least important. Once you’ve taken the test, you’ll either be pleasantly surprised or very much aware of your actual Love Language.
So what are the 5 Love Languages?
Words of Affirmation
This love language, according to Dr. Chapman, uses words to affirm other people.
For those who prefer the words of affirmation language, hearing “I love you” and other compliments are what they value the most. Words hold real value within this language. On the other hand, negative criticisms or feedback can be extremely hurtful to someone who has words of affirmation as their top love language, so be very careful with what you say!
Someone whose top love language that is quality time is all about giving or getting undivided attention. Unlike the words of affirmation language, talk is cheap and being a loved one’s main focus leaves quality timers feeling satisfied and comforted.
According to Dr. Chapman, to some people what makes them feel most loved is to receive a tangible gift. This doesn’t necessarily mean the person is materialistic, but a meaningful or thoughtful present it was makes them feel appreciated.
Acts of Service
For those who are looking for acts of service, actions speak louder than words. People who speak the language of service want their partner to recognize that their life is rough and help them out in any way possible. Lending a helping hand shows you really care.
People who thrive on this language do not deal well with broken promises — or perceived laziness — and have very little tolerance for people who make more work for them. Basically, if you’re not willing to show your appreciation by doing them a favor, you’re saying you don’t value them.
According to Dr. Chapman, to the person who values touch, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch. Everyday physical connections, like hand-holding, kissing, or any type of re-affirming physical contact is greatly appreciated. On the other hand, any instance of physical abuse is a total deal breaker.
If you haven’t already, be sure to head over www.5lovelanguages.com to take your test today! Leave us a comment below if you take the test and let us know if you’ve already taken this test or if this was news to you!